Kajol and her husband Ajay Devgan have been working in the Bollywood film industry for many years and in these years they have learned to deal with those who troll themselves or comment on them, but like the rest of the parents, they are also sensitive to the comments or criticism made on their children and they are sad about it.
Kajol said, ‘I gave this advice to children’
During an episode of ‘Sunday Brach’ with Curly Tales, when Host Kamia Jani asked Kajol if she loses her temper on the comments made on her children, Kajol said, ‘Of course you get angry. You are upset. But as I also told Nyasa (Kajol’s daughter) that you should know what you are doing. You have to understand that whatever you do, people will talk about you.
He said, ‘Whether you correct or wrong. You go to the temple or club people will do evil to you. You cannot take it so seriously that you should worry about it or go crazy ‘
Turn criticism into opportunity
However, in such a situation, the question arises whether it is so easy to ignore criticism and remain calm in such situations. Reema Bhandekar, a psychologist of the mpower of Aditya Birla Education Trust, told the English website ‘Indian Express’ that hearing the criticism of her or loved ones can be sad and hurt and such things can remain in our mind for many days.
She says, ‘Sometimes, criticism can also seem wrong, heart hurting or rude. But by adopting the growth mindset, we can accept the thoughts of others with gratitude and good spirit and can also use them to re -create ourselves over time.
What is growth mindset
Reema says, “When someone criticizes the greatest publicity about someone’s abilities, people with growth mindset instead of keeping silent or opposing it, take it as data and decide to improve it in peace where necessary. The growth mindset is like writing the screenplay in the middle in which the story is taken in a new direction with more depth. It is like a difference between breakdown under pressure and recovering from an unpleasant experience.
Change the nectar
When you get criticism, first try to see it from the perspective of a third person and think how a successful and calm person will take this criticism? Then focus on useful and practical aspects of criticism. You try to separate the person’s accents and the hidden message in his point. With this, you will also be able to redeem that criticism for your benefit.
Control your feelings
Listening to words that are showing you negative, it is normal to create reactions like anger, shame, despair or considering yourself as useless. It is very important to stop a little before reacting at such a time. Taking some deep breaths, talking to a wise person around you, or doing things like walking for a while can help you avoid thinking more on criticism.
Answer rejection with gratitude and humility. If you can thank the person for his response then it will indicate that you are ready to learn.
Work on yourself
Use criticisms as an opportunity to prove yourself in front of others. Do not let negativity come in the way of your big dreams. If you are scolded to not live up to expectations, then talk to experts how you can proceed over time.
According to Reema, it is always helpful to get a new approach from others to deal with the emotions associated with criticism. Understand that everyone can express their opinion about you whether you like it or not. So do not start assessing yourself.
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