These days, women are being made villains by discussing the names of Sonam Raghuvanshi, Nikita Singhania, Muskan Rastogi etc. on social media. By giving an example of some women of the society, it is being assumed that today’s women are becoming like this. For this, teachings from Tulsidas to Gautam Buddha are being told. An assumption is being made that the killing of husbands by wives is becoming a trend. It is obvious that this exaggeration is increasing fear and mistrust in society. But there is no fault of people in this either. Our social structure is such that this opinion about women has been there for centuries. On the one hand, in our scriptures, Yatra Narayastu Pujyante Ramante Tatra Devta
Honoring the woman has been given respect, on the other hand there is no shortage of such texts which have been considering women as the door of hell.
The biggest thing is that this story of women is not only about their country. The same is in other countries of the world. Women were never given equal rights to men, considering them as a means of consumption. Whether it is the history of Central Asia or the Roman Empires. There has been a similar situation in all places. As soon as social development continued, women came to be considered equal to men. This system has been indirectly responsible for girls like Sonam Raghuvanshi being rebel.
The sooner the male society understands it, the better. Because the society can be saved from disintegration only. As soon as we get rid of the feudal mindset of patriarchal society, it will be beneficial for our, society and our daughters. Because after liberalization, women are now walking shoulder to shoulder with men, you can no longer behave with them by considering them as inferior.
Seeing the videos of Sonam Raghuvanshi’s wedding, it seems that she used to get a lot of love in her family. In the middle class and upper middle class of India, girls are now getting love equal to boys. Sometimes it seems that girls are getting more love and respect. But when it comes to rights, boys start getting pregnancy. Then it is understood that we are still living in the old times.
Sonam Raghuvanshi is married to pomp. Seeing many videos, it seemed that a wedding planner had planned the function. Many times it also felt that choreographer has trended the groom bride for each sequence. The basic purpose of telling all this is that the difference between the boy and the girl from anywhere is no longer in our society.
But Sonam Raghuvanshi’s father says that his daughter had no mail friend. She used to come back from home to office with her brother. Its meaning directly comes out that Sonam will be kept away from male friends. While Sonam is a well -educated girl of a good school. Meaning we will teach our daughters in a good school, spend millions in her marriage, spend different types of dress and jewelry and party, but when it comes to choosing the groom, it will be chosen only according to father and brother. This maleist mentality is not only the story of small cities like Indore, Prayagraj, Banaras, it is in Mumbai and Bollywood. Even the marriage of Shatrughanan Sinha’s daughter Sonakshi was found much later. The brothers have accepted that they have no sister at all. Because Sonakshi did not marry the family’s will.
We want our children to work in coal mine but their hands should not be black with coal. Sonam Raghuvanshi’s father is so proud that his daughter has no male friend. Obviously, this is a matter of stopping human nature. Sonam must have been advised to stay away from men (boys) since childhood. Not only advice, but he must have been monitored for 24 hours that he did not roam with any boys in any way. This is the reason that she used to force the rakhi to whom she loved, so that the society could get dust in her eyes and meet her for two moments.
Three decades ago in towns or villages, thousands of kilometers from the metros of the country, three decades ago, girls who did not get a chance to go to school, today girls of the same village work in the night shifts of call centers in Delhi-Mumbai and Bengaluru. People of the same town and village who used to not send their daughters alone at night at night, they proudly do a night out and put selfies on Facebook with their daughters. But when it comes to marriage, all their modernity is lost.
However, it is not that the criteria regarding marriage have not changed. But still parents want girls to take care of at least caste-religion etc. while choosing groom. While this is not almost almost at all about sons. If the son brings the daughter -in -law of another religion, then there is probably no problem. But if the daughter goes to another religion, then whether it is Hindu or Muslim, Sikh or Christian, everyone has problems. In castes, Hindu upper caste never wants his daughter to choose someone from backward or scheduled caste.
Many marriages in India are also taking place at the will of daughters. You can say why this is happening where marriages are happening in will. Actually, they marry a modern girl, but after marriage, they start understanding the ownership of her. It is not so easy to get out of the feudal mentality of the powerful society. It takes full generations to finish it. This period of India is a transition period in terms of men and women relationship. It will take time, but women will have to get away from the mentality of considering their property as soon as possible.